Hello lovely you!
Good luck, and I hope you had a great week!
Today I thought I would give you tips on how you can create your happiness because only you can do it and no one else.
How do I become happier?
I want to raise such an important issue as happiness. We all constantly strive to feel good and feel happy.
For many years I did not understand that I myself create my own happiness but expected others to do it for me—my happiness, what I want in life, and above all how I want to live my life.
Today I know better, and I have created my dream to be happy and do the things that make me happy. But training is required! Below I give you tips that have worked for me, and I hope I can inspire you to your happiness too!
Every day we have between 80,000 – 120,000 thoughts (depending on how much it spins up there). 90% of all these thoughts we thought of yesterday, and, 80% of all these thoughts are negative. Our brain is designed to worry, to protect you, and it is very good at it.
In addition to all the thoughts, we also need to make different daily decisions, usually between 2,500-10,000. The brain requires about 25% of all your total energy. No wonder we are tired and have no energy. We need to listen more to the heart. But how do you do that?
We usually worry about the future. You fantasize about something that does not yet exist. We live far too little in the present and, unfortunately, more in the past or in the future. Then we base and create our lives based on those foundations. It’s not wise when you think about it, is it ?!
Can you not stop worrying, or are you walking around with anxiety, or may you have difficulty sitting back and enjoying life?
There is nothing wrong with you. It is just an understanding of the human brain and that you can influence your happiness because it is present in everyone.
As I mentioned above, the brain wants to protect us. Unfortunately, we are not built to be “happy” in a natural way. We focus on creating what we want from what is available. We should focus more on what I can enjoy, what makes me happy, and what I can create based on that. Then obstacles become opportunities, and life becomes a beautiful journey!
It is also very important to have a good environment for our microbiome in the gut, as it also affects the brain. We form 95% of our serotonin (our feel-good hormone), in the gut and only 5% in the brain, so we must have good bacteria that help the gut and body to feel good.
What are the mistakes we most often make?
We believe that time is running out ….. we only live once…. This is usually the mental basis for our thinking. We create an illusion, something that does not exist. Therefore, we can not catch it.
You are not in time; time is in you. Presence is not to catch a small part of something that also runs from us. Presence is to let us experience it. To be present and appreciative, both the small and the big.
The brain can either be in focus mode or relaxed mode. It cannot be in both simultaneously, which means that we can choose in which position we want it to be.
When the brain is focused, it is more limited, and that state may be needed more when we know what we want and focus on one thing.
In a relaxed state, the nerve cells in the brain are here and there, which means that the brain can absorb a lot at once. Here, creativity develops, and it is only when the focus is disconnected that we find solutions. In this situation, we are when we meditate, are out in the woods, or stand in the shower, all ideas come to us, and we get creative.
You will activate the relaxed part by being curious and asking questions. Meditate, start from love, and do not take life too seriously, then the brain will also relax, and you will feel better. You can train which one you want more of. When you find sustainable happiness, you have succeeded by training and creating yourself for it.
We imagine that everything will be better if we do this or that. But the truth is that there is no better time to be happy than right now. So start right away and stop thinking and thinking so much about the future; if I meet the right one, as long as I have children, or when summer comes, it will be better. Start the change right away! Our lives will always be full of new challenges, and therefore decide to be fully happy here and now!
The thought you feed yourself with survives, and what you focus on grows. You have probably heard that two different people tell completely differently how they experienced the same thing. It may have to do with one focusing on the beautiful, fun, and what was good about the stay, and the other more on problems and what was not so good.
Start by looking down into your pocket and dig for the stinky fish that may be lying there—that which you do not want to talk about and which lies there and presses and worries you. As long as that anxiety remains, it will also be difficult to heal or be happy. When you put a name to the feeling, what it is, and how it feels, you can begin to understand it. Take it up on speech; dare to raise what you are worried about to others. You will notice that you are not the only one who worry about the same things when you share with others. You can see and do something about anxiety by writing or talking about it.
Put the stinking fish on the table and ask yourself the following questions:
– In what way is this belief thought true?
– How did I learn this? Who taught me this thought?
– What will it cost me if I do not give up this thought now? When it comes to my health, my family, my finances and my relationship, etc.
– How will my life change by giving up the thought? Try to live in the thought and how it feels when you have given up the thought; how do you feel then?
– To whom can I share my thoughts?
– What is the first thing I should act on, as far as my mind is concerned?
Love,
Johanna